Although it is extremely stressful to live with ambiguity, it is an opportunity to develop an important life skill. Most of us find it easier to cope by thinking of life as either “black or white.” This is actually a falsehood because almost nothing and nobody is just one thing, including all good or all bad. Frequently, the good and the bad coexist within both situations and people.
By identifying the strengths and weaknesses of any person or situation, you can begin to lead a more truly authentic life. This can help you with abstinence from food, shopping, or substances. It can also help you become more successful in relationships because neither we nor the people we like and love are rarely all good or all bad. This is the case because abstinence from any substance is based on truth, which is often a complex web of black and white, certain, and uncertain, clear, and ambiguous. Once we understand this concept and apply it, we can truly begin to accept ourselves and others which will help us to love more freely, and live more successfully from a position of transparency and clarity.